Think the Hamptons  are all about celebs and socialites and elitists partying it up? There might be pockets of that, but the majority of the region is laid back and appreciative of the finer things in life, the things that come naturally. Since many visitors end up with beach rentals or apartment-style accommodations, foodies can dive into their kitchens or barbecues armed with the best fresh ingredients.
One of the most fun and rewarding experiences you can do to feel part of the Hamptons is clamming. Picking up a small measuring device with a hollow rectangle, available widely, is about all the gear you need. If the shellfish fits through the gauge, it is considered too small and you need to toss it back in. If not, toss it into your bag.
Laws and licenses shift, so check with local authorities as dividing lines and permissible picking beds vary. Fret not, if this is no longer an option, much fun can be had in the preparation, and local fish markets offering fresh clams and oysters are an experience in themselves.
Another pick to accompany the meal is a Long Island  natural: wine. Fortunately, whites are widely available here. Vineyard tastings and tiny mom-and-pop wine shops will steer you in the right local direction, or give one of these locals a try — decent, but not so, so pricy as to get steamed when you have to share a few swigs with the pot of shellfish. Try out quality, under $20 bottles from Shinn Estate Vineyards, Martha Clara Vineyards, Macari Vineyards, and Channing Daughters — widely available throughout the Hamptons.
Following Mom’s advice to eat your veggies is more fun with the novelty of picking your own shell and sugar snap peas (mid-June, early July), tomatoes and peppers (mid-July), string beans and eggplant (Aug.–Sept.) available throughout the Hamptons, with many pick-your-own farms organic. Round out the clambake with shallots or leeks, Thai basil for the steamers, and some sweet roasting corn from the omnipresent farm stand alongside the weighing stations.
Dessert is a simple affair. Pick-your-own peaches and blackberries or strawberries paired with fresh whipped cream will top off the meal nicely and avoid the extra heat of firing up an oven for a cobbler.